there are plenty of fish in the sea, right?.. right?!

Some lines are too fine. What is the difference between a "sensitive guy" and a guy that's not manly enough? What's the difference between "not enough attention", "enough attention" and "clingy"? What's the difference between a confident guy and a cocky guy? What's the difference between an immature guy, a mature guy, and a guy who takes everything too seriously?

I know, it's all personal and subjective. Each girl to their own, and each guy to their own. Which is what makes the metaphorical sea in which the metaphorical fish swim for us guys to metaphorically catch so much bigger. (read: There are plenty of fish in the sea but the sea is freaking huge and the fish are freaking small) Here's what I mean...

More romance does not make a relationship better (mainly @girls). Conversely, more sex does not make a better relationship either (mainly @guys). What makes finding the right person so damn hard, is finding someone who is on the "same page" as you. Or the "same chapter" will do, you guys will still get along. But even "same book" is pushing it a bit; "WHY! DON'T TALK TO ME, I DON'T WANT TO HEAR YOUR METAPHORICAL SPOILERS!" or "HURRY THE HELL UP I'M GETTING BORED OF WAITING!". So there would have to be an agreement on whether eye contact + handholding is a taboo, or whether there should be roses and rose petals and candles every day. Similarly, they both need to agree on whether sex is for procreation only (Shamy, anyone?) or if 5 times a day keeps the doctor away.

At the same time, the personalities must be similar enough to know what makes the other person smile, but different enough to keep things interesting, and not feeling like you're dating a clone of yourself with altered XY chromosomes.


So... who's still fishing in the sea?