standards. there are two of them.

Double standards are insane.

Let's start with an innately pessimistic one:
When we are in (emotional, physical, whatever) pain, we perceive that pain to be worse than anyone else's. No-one understands your pain, because it is unique to you, and nobody in the world has suffered like you have.
Unfortunately, we probably don't think of our great times as the best in the world. They've all be done before. I mean sure, you're smiling when you're at the party/whatever. But you don't spend a week cheering about how awesome it is and nobody else would ever understand how happy you are. But you would do the same for sadness. You could mope for months about something unhappy, but you get over the happy stuff in a few hours.

It's because you have taken stuff for granted. All your happy stuff, that is your default state of mind. You have become desensitised to happiness. When your whole foundation of "my life is innately awesome" has been rocked, you spend ages coming to terms with your less than perfect world. I know it's hard to see what you have. I know a few things I have now that I would miss if they're gone, but I wouldn't be able to list half of all the things I should be grateful for. Just remember: no matter how much your life sucks right now, it's still pretty freaking good, if you look at it the right way.

Now with double standards. It is the most annoying thing when you're getting lectured by someone who is exhibiting that exact same behaviour. In short, an instant hypocrite. Here's a few:

- When someone does something irrational and reckless, they're acting on impulse and not thinking clearly. When we do the exact same thing, we did out of our own free will, after careful thought and consideration (to the same consequence...)
- Where other people are arrogant, we are just confident
- Where other people are speaking imperatively, we are just speaking assertively
- Where other people are whingey and bitchy, we are just communicative, and if you didn't want to listen, then get the fuck out of my friend circle.
- If other people rage, they are bitches/assholes. If we rage, it was because of several factors that logically combine to warrant a rage.

There is ALWAYS a nice sounding word for "being an asshole". For some reason, that nice word always applies to ourselves.