a compliment accomplishment

Giving compliments is harder than it is given credit for. Sometimes it seems like it's out of pity, sometimes it seems even seems condescending.

I want to post my 2U Representation of Women essay's comment:

"Starts well but becomes a bit incoherent at the end. However you do answer the question & show extensive knowledge of the text. You also (mercifully) desmonstrate sophisticated control of language in readable writing"

I know that this, in fact, is the equivalent of a glowing review. But it sure doesn't feel like it. Like the bit at the beginning, I'm not going to discuss cos it's a not a compliment. It is indeed constructive criticism because my essay did drop in quality after I got tired :L
But the additional word "mercifully", combined with me seeing everyone else's essays, makes it feel like a cheap moment of satisfaction. So in actuality the compliment was made stupid by implying that everyone else's essays sucked. So I didn't really enjoy that comment :L


Compliments are also always about timing. The subject of the compliment and the time it is given are subtly intertwined.
Like, if you're making out and then you say "Damn you're pretty", it would have less effect than if you said it while taking a walk through the park.
Because whether you intended to or not, because you're a dude and you're always wanting sex and you're a dick, if you give compliments during moments of intimacy you just want more sex. Truefact.
Certain praises during certain times can be described as "strings attached compliments".

So do comments about work. Like, a certain member of staff always gives unnecessariliy long speeches during assemblies that are tangent. But for the first time on Year 11 info night, I heard something useful. It went something along the lines of:
"Don't wait until after the results come back to praise them on their hard work. Don't even wait until after the exam to praise them on their hard work. Do it before the exam, where your compliment is completely unbiased by the actual occurence of the test"
And I found this a good idea. Giving praise/compliments as they are deserved is much more effective than a "Oh you got 30%? Well, you worked hard and you tried your best." No matter how you say it, it will always sound like either pity or condescension.

And if its a good result, it's like "Oh, 98%, son? Good, I see you worked hard enough.". And that is even worse than a "Wow 98% is a really good score. Good work". It's like, avoiding the actual compliment, which is the topic at hand, the mark. It's like the parent is just encouraging the kid to study more through that pseudo-compliment.

But if the praise was given before the actual test, the kid will know that they did indeed work hard, and regardless of the result, it will be true, even if their parents try to rescind that later xP.

So the unconditional nature of a compliment lends to its sincerity and any compliments with ulterior motives just feel cheap. And it's true. And remember it. Give them for the sake of complimenting and not for the sake of trying to please them or gain something from them (Y).

Semi-related topic. AC electricity can be shaped into many pick up lines. Take these key points and combine them at will 8D
I feel a spark/tingle/shock
Feels like a sine
I can't let go!
Solenoid + bar magnet to generate AC electricity. LET YOUR IMAGINATION RUN WILD.
Back and forth, back and forth motion of particles.


OH BEST EUPHEMISM FOR SEX THAT I HEARD IN AS YOU LIKE IT: "You just want to have a man in your belly"